Anyone who has been around Wholebody focusing for a while has heard stories of, or has had the experience of an emotionally or psychically painful part soften in some way as a result of their WBF experience. In this intunement, Kevin demystifies what may seem like a magical experience. He walks us through his own experience of a painful calf in order to help us experience how grounded presence, combined with acceptance and giving that painful part all the time it needs actually creates something new. This is a simple, reproducible practice that can help anyone through difficult moments and bodily sensations.
To listen to this intunement is to be an observer/participant in the process of the softening of a painful part as it finds a new way of being.
Welcome to the second video blog of a recent conversation between Kevin and UK Wholebody Focusing trainer Addie van der Kooy. In the first clip Kevin and Addie explored the “inner core muscle” of “Me Here” and in this clip Addie speaks about another inner core muscle that can be activated by the practice of Letting Your Experience Be – a letting go of any notion of what your experience should be in each moment. Enjoy!
This intunement is about connecting to ourselves without any goal or need to “do it the right way.” Kevin starts with inviting us to use our breath. He guides us on a clear path to experience ourselves from both inner movement (breath) and outer movement (whatever shows up). That is it!
You can choose to stay only with the movement or make space for something wanting to come into consciousness. He ends by suggesting a gentle way to re-engage with the fullness of the world around us.
This is an intunement to put on your cell phone so that you can pause and take a mini “Me Here” vacation whenever it is needed.
Wake up and enjoy who you are! Love your resistance! Feel you own energy! And let what wants your attention to have the space it needs.
Kevin demonstrates how Wholebody Focusing is about returning to our authentic selves and honoring ourselves over and over again. He does this by walking us through a challenging shared experience with two people in his life and how he can be with those challenges and still be able to love and enjoy who he is.
What does it mean to accept ourselves in a deep and true way? As we move forward in our daily Wholebody Focusing practice our sense of aliveness emerges in a stronger and more clear way. This may feel uncomfortable. It may show up as pain or an unraveling of our own ways of ignoring what is there. In this intunement, Kevin gently guides us through this on-going process in which each unfolding may lead to a new one. Along the way, we can continue to ask “what is good for me now?”
By simply accepting what’s there each time, we allow whatever is needed to emerge. Kevin asks us to notice the difference in our bodies when we resist what is there from how our bodies feel when we are giving acceptance to what’s there.
It would be wonderful to hear replies from our readers about that difference.
In the first 12 intunements, Kevin helps us strengthen our sense of Me Here. We are now at the beginning of a new phase of this this work–a phase that guides us to being with the parts of ourselves that need our attention and love. This new group of intunements helps us hold both Me Here and something else. The first intunement of this group works with a painful part.
Something in Me Hurts! is an intunement that supports us when we need loving kindness for a part of us that has pain or is suffering. Kevin walks us through, in real time, what happens to him when he awakes to a painful shoulder. He connects to himself and to the part that hurts which allows both to become more aware of themselves and each other. Through this process something new emerges.
Feel what happens when you share this experience with Kevin.
I hope some day an artist is willing to collaborate on an animation of this Audio Guiding Suggestion. Kevin paints a visually-inspired explanation of how one is healed through grounded presence, Me Here and holding the whole and complexity of ourselves with equal regard. What happens is magic and a reflection of how the universe operates to create balance and harmony in its systems.
Take a journey with Kevin through this world of destruction and rebirth of self as a new whole person.