Tag: #transformation

Is This the Life I Really Want?

YongWei Xu lives in a small village, Wu Xi, outside of Shanghai, China. She has been studying Wholebody Focusing with Karen Whalen and her team since 2009. YongWei talks about how WBF has helped her to stop over-thinking her decisions.  Her new ability to connect to the physical body and pay attention to physical symptoms, like tense shoulders, helps her connect to her emotions. Instead of running from one goal to another, she pauses to be with what each goal means to her. This process brings her to the question “Is this the life I really want?”

For YongWei, Heartfelt Conversation is “not just a little chat… It really comes from my heart.” It is the way that she and her friends feel united with each other and it helps her to feel less lonely.

In her small village, YongWei teaches Wholebody Focusing. What her friends, her group and her clients learn is a WBF lifestyle to support their daily life. The focusing community provides a warm place to use their curiosity to explore new things about themselves and each other together.

YongWei also offers us a New Year’s wish that, if you have not already learned focusing, you have an opportunity to learn. This will help you have more fun and happiness in your life.

Is this the Life I really want? in You Tube

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What Has Come for Me Here

Paul Through the Window
Paul through the Window by Kevin McEvenue

I have been reflecting on how what has been shared—in this kind of Heartfelt Communication with one another—has felt so good for me. I’m thinking of the recent sense of connection that speaks from direct experience that has awakened something in each of the lives that are giving voice—or describing—their direct experience of something real and something worthwhile for them to communicate with themselves and to share with each other.

I remember that I would often say, “That touches me. Your words—or your voice—touches me deeply.”

So I’m wondering, what do I mean by that? What does that mean? “What you share here touches me deeply.” And I can feel that right now.  In my heart.  In my belly.  In my thighs. It’s a kind of warmth, a kind of loving and a kind of wanting that seems to touch a kind of an awakening of a desire in me that’s already there.

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Being Ourselves

Bruna Blandino and Rosa Catoio, two Italian Wholebody focusers, met to discuss how Wholebody focusing and Heartfelt Conversation has changed their lives.  Rather than being who society and their families want them to be, Wholebody Focusing and Heartfelt Conversation has given them a mechanism to live more fully in their own truth.  Watch their video to hear how this has come about.

If you are having difficulty seeing this video in full screen, please click on the You Tube link https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKpB86qG-PI

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My Heart’s Desire

isabelsheartsquare
Painting by Isabel Bennett Hennman

Many of us who are Wholebody Focusers have learned concepts and practices from many other modalities. In a workshop many years ago, I learned about the concept of “heart’s desire.” The practice I was taught in this workshop was to silently wish yourself your heart’s desire and then silently wish those around you their heart’s desire. We also learned that a true heart’s desire can only be for our highest and greatest good.

What Happens When You Wish People their Hearts Desire

I live in New York City and take public transportation so I have ample opportunities to live this practice.  It has helped me learn so many things. First, I struggled to remember to wish myself my heart’s desire. It would be ten minutes of concentrating on others before I remembered myself. Then mentioning me felt quite “selfish.” Eventually, it took less and less time to remember me and wishing myself my heart’s desire gave me a surge of energy.

Then I noticed how judgmental I was. I vowed to wish everyone in my subway car or bus their heart’s desire but I felt negative feelings coming about some people. I had to recognize that harsh part of myself that is so critical. Often the criticism would be about someone’s hairstyle or clothing but it also showed up when people seemed different from me too. My practice became noticing what came for me when I thought about wishing a particular person their heart’s desire. I would acknowledge what was there and let it go. When I added the wish for that person, my heart and the criticism would soften. It also helped me be with how all that criticism that emerged was really about me. This practice helped me be with both the wish to generate love for others along with a fierce need to separate myself through criticism of others.   I needed hold those parts with equal regard. This eventually has led to much less criticism for myself and for unsuspected random citizens of NYC.

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Haiku — Mid December

Wholebody Focusing Haiku # 12
Needing forgiveness

Of myself and my family.

Let my body move.

Diana Scalera

Being in contact with our energetic bodies means that we have cycles of awareness, feeling stuck, movement, not knowing, and healing.  Our bodies also respond to the seasons and the times of the year.  The holiday season can be a loving time and can also have some peril.   The Haiku that came these past nine days were about what was cycling through me that was preparing for the holidays.

Wholebody Focusing Haiku # 10

A new movement comes
My hand on my crown moving.
Connection to my core.

Wholebody Focusing Haiku # 11  
Not knowing is there
To help us be with ourselves
Until we are ready.

Wholebody Focusing Haiku # 12
Needing forgiveness
Of myself and my family.
Let my body move.

Wholebody Focusing Haiku # 13   
Regular partners
Begin to find parallels
Parts that need your love.

Wholebody Focusing Haiku # 14
Holiday fears rise
When I think about all that.
Holding space for me.

Reiki Haiku # 5
Universal life 
force
Please enter my body now.
Thank you for your help.

Reiki Haiku #6
Many ways to share
Your Reiki practice with  world
Self, other, distance.

Reiki Haiku # 7
Do you love yourself?
My first Reiki teacher asked.
I became silent.

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What do I mean by the ‘We’?

Hello fellow WBF’ers,

I wrote what came about the ‘we’ in August 2017, and I’d like to share it here:

Hello dear friends,

When I awoke last Tuesday–after having had a meaningful conversation about the “WE” with Kevin the day before–I found the following words wanting to be expressed, and I wrote them down. Now I wish to share them with you, knowing that what I’ve written is only a beginning, not all of it, and that it may change, it may disagree with itself later, it might give lots more that I didn’t know. And it might give it through someone else.

I welcome hearing what comes for each of us about this and about related topics on heartfelt connection. I am always seeking that with everyone–sometimes feeling I’ve failed, or worse: that I’ve forgotten about it completely. And sometimes the connection appears with a great sense of love and satisfaction.

Here’s what came for me to write last Tuesday morning:

In a ‘we,’ we are now able to take in so much more.

In ‘small self,’ we know very little. In ‘small self,’ we are aware mostly of our own personal concerns and barely aware of the concerns of others. Others are largely unknown. When we sense the presence of other, we still miss most of what they are, what they think, what they experience; instead, when we think we ‘see’ the other, we are often simply seeing what we think of them.

When we begin to notice and realize that the other has experiences, views, thoughts, separate from our own, and surprising to us, we begin to open up to knowing much more than previously.

When we begin to be aware of a “We,” we are opened up to knowing infinitely more.

That “We” can take the form of me-alone-by-myself-in-connection-to-my-spiritual-guidance. I am no longer the ‘small self,’ I am now ‘with’ an ‘other’ that lives beyond me, that doesn’t rely on my breath or my mind to exist. It is a living-something that is independent of me and which I can become aware of. Can we call it Body Wisdom? Spirit?

The”We” can also come about between me and another person. That kind of “We” takes form when I become aware of the presence and existence of another person as they become aware of me; in other words, where both I and the other person can sense that the ‘other’ has experiences/thoughts/senses that are different than my own and are valuable, precious, and worthy of my careful attention. And a further component: that in some way, we are both aware of that-which-is-beyond-us; maybe we call that Body Wisdom, maybe we have other terms to describe it. And the resulting conversation has a flow to it that doesn’t happen without this alive “We”.

Love to all from Elizabeth Morana

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Why do I want to do this thing called Focusing – Wholebody Focusing. What is in it for me?

“What is in it for me!” How selfish! Good experience in self loving and so much more….

Going Back to Basics – Why do I want to do this thing called Focusing – Wholebody Focusing.
What is in it for me?
I am very surprised what came in me when I asked myself this question, especially “What is in it for me!” How selfish! Good experience in self loving and so much more….
But just the right question?
It is about me, the felt sense of me! Finding me….thank you Gendlin for framing this experience for us.
Does something come for you too as you feel/hear/see me say this?

Kevin

 

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Wholebody is Special

Our bodies’ inherent ability to heal waits for us to give our attention to what is present, continuously observing what is truly there with equal regard and accompanying our bodies as they explore their own healing in their own time and their own way.

This blog is based on the work of Kevin McEvenue. It is dedicated to those who seek healing by connecting to available abundant, benevolent energy to support the body’s healing wisdom. Stories of practitioners’ and teachers’ experiences lead us through their own healing through this method.

The Blog is a resource with followers from over 60 countries and posts in English, Italian, Spanish, Chinese, Norwegian, and Swedish. One can find examples of how Wholebody Focusing can support your special emotional needs. At the same time, it is also a source of beauty. The authors use prose, poetry, art, photography, music, and video to help you understand their work. Each author plans and designs their posts to express the power of their experience of this practice.

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How Wholebody Focusing Works

Our bodies’ inherent ability to heal needs us to focus on what is present, continuously observing what is genuinely there. We do this with equal regard for whatever we find and accompany our bodies as they explore their own healing in their own time and their own way. This healing is deep and lasting. It doesn’t cause trauma, and we can experience new parts of ourselves emerging as they find their way.

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