Is This the Life I Really Want?

YongWei Xu lives in a small village, Wu Xi, outside of Shanghai, China. She has been studying Wholebody Focusing with Karen Whalen and her team since 2009. YongWei talks about how WBF has helped her to stop over-thinking her decisions.  Her new ability to connect to the physical body and pay attention to physical symptoms, like tense shoulders, helps her connect to her emotions. Instead of running from one goal to another, she pauses to be with what each goal means to her. This process brings her to the question “Is this the life I really want?”

For YongWei, Heartfelt Conversation is “not just a little chat… It really comes from my heart.” It is the way that she and her friends feel united with each other and it helps her to feel less lonely.

In her small village, YongWei teaches Wholebody Focusing. What her friends, her group and her clients learn is a WBF lifestyle to support their daily life. The focusing community provides a warm place to use their curiosity to explore new things about themselves and each other together.

YongWei also offers us a New Year’s wish that, if you have not already learned focusing, you have an opportunity to learn. This will help you have more fun and happiness in your life.

Is this the Life I really want? in You Tube

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Author: Diana Scalera

I am a Certified Wholebody Focusing Professional and Reiki Master Level III. I am interested in the cross-section between Wholebody focusing and energy work. I offer Reiki treatments in person and at a distance. I am also available to train clients in WBF. Please contact me at

3 thoughts on “Is This the Life I Really Want?”

  1. Beautiful. thank you both for sharing this with us and especially Yong Wei all the way from China!

  2. Happy New Year, Yong Wei
    I felt so good to see and hear and feel your beautiful message how this work had been for you and your community. As you speak of your experience of being able to pause before the next thought happens, I can feel how that very short moment gives your body the space it needs to let you know what it would like to do next! What a relief and so easy, is what comes for me to say.

    I also relate to your exploration of HeartFelt Connection and Conversation and what that has opened up in your community for a mutual sharing-of one-another in this way. I use the word ‘exploring’ because for me it brings in so much of our history around trust, the sense of different lives, different worlds that seem similar but not the same. I struggle with that. Can I really make room for your would too? How can I do that without losing a sense of myself? That is where the pause is so helpful and to be able to make room for the not knowing, discovering that something in us knows how to in a way we don’t.

    Warmly Kevin McEvenue

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