Are you in need of some lighthearted play? Here is an intunement that will move you into an inner-directed body experience without narrative or particular intention other than to experience movement that is generated by your body alone. Kevin narrates the experience of asking his body to stand from a sitting position merely by relying on its own body wisdom sense of standing.
We can be partners in this game. If we invite our bodies, they may want to share the same experience with Kevin, something that takes longer than our own ability to stand and has many nuances that one might not expect.
So ask you body to stand, allow all necessary movement to emerge and let go of any need to create meaning or narrative out the experience.
Anyone who has been around Wholebody focusing for a while has heard stories of, or has had the experience of an emotionally or psychically painful part soften in some way as a result of their WBF experience. In this intunement, Kevin demystifies what may seem like a magical experience. He walks us through his own experience of a painful calf in order to help us experience how grounded presence, combined with acceptance and giving that painful part all the time it needs actually creates something new. This is a simple, reproducible practice that can help anyone through difficult moments and bodily sensations.
To listen to this intunement is to be an observer/participant in the process of the softening of a painful part as it finds a new way of being.
What we resist must persist! is the rallying cry in this intunement. Kevin takes us through the moment in our grounding process in which we choose to either resist what is there or accept what is there. What happens in our bodies as we begin the process of engagement with our resistance?
The parts we resist are looking for compassion and relief. They are suffering. They need our presence for their healing process to begin. When we are holding a strong sense of Me Here, it allows the resistance to unfold in its own way and its own time.
What does it mean to accept ourselves in a deep and true way? As we move forward in our daily Wholebody Focusing practice our sense of aliveness emerges in a stronger and more clear way. This may feel uncomfortable. It may show up as pain or an unraveling of our own ways of ignoring what is there. In this intunement, Kevin gently guides us through this on-going process in which each unfolding may lead to a new one. Along the way, we can continue to ask “what is good for me now?”
By simply accepting what’s there each time, we allow whatever is needed to emerge. Kevin asks us to notice the difference in our bodies when we resist what is there from how our bodies feel when we are giving acceptance to what’s there.
It would be wonderful to hear replies from our readers about that difference.
Welcome to the first of three video blogs of a conversation between Kevin and UK Wholebody Focusing trainer Addie van der Kooy. During this converation Addie talks about the importance of several “inner core muscles” which need to be exercised before Focusing can really come into its own.
In this first video blog, Kevin and Addie explore what it takes to strengthen one of these inner muscles, the “Me Here” muscle – a physical experience of being present, aware and alive in the moment. Daily practice periods and “pauses for Presence” are simple, effective ways of tuning this muscle as they create a new habit: stepping out of our thinking and into our body sense of being present and alive in the moment.
In the next two video blogs Kevin and Addie explore a couple of other inner core muscles.
I hope some day an artist is willing to collaborate on an animation of this Audio Guiding Suggestion. Kevin paints a visually-inspired explanation of how one is healed through grounded presence, Me Here and holding the whole and complexity of ourselves with equal regard. What happens is magic and a reflection of how the universe operates to create balance and harmony in its systems.
Take a journey with Kevin through this world of destruction and rebirth of self as a new whole person.
What does it mean to connect to our sense of Me Here? How do we know when we are connected? What is the process of getting there? What might happen when we are connected? What are the challenges and benefits of being connected to the Me Here?
Kevin shares what this process has been like for him to grow this part of himself so that we can develop our own practice and experience of Me Here that is unique to each of us. This is an intunement that we will go back to many times as we grow our own sense of Me Here.
…You offer me Space for that encounter a couple years ago with the two does. As I have your words here it comes back so palpably, so viscerally that moment of going out the front door and finding the deer just across and up on the high side of the driveway.
We all stopped.
And from somewhere there was a becoming more as I somehow knew or it came to just meet them wordlessly yes but also deeply from my heart as though it were a sending and receiving directly.
As I “remember” this and re-feel this I am in there again and wonder what/how this relates with your experience.
My heart comes more alive. Yes that sounds right, the activity of my heart comes more alive to itself in this stopping in this way. I see/feel/give from my heart. And the piece that comes more to know itself is the receiving part.
I have to pause here. There are oceans of Benevolence to receive that I have been letting in by the dropper full. OMG
OK This one can go on the blog.
As I reread this having typed it here, a reticent bit comes, this is wide open and something worries about its safety.
It comes to me to pause back at the words that seemed to describe or point to something – oceans of Benevolence.
Letting this In.
A word comes further as I have the whole of this experience – Reception. Something satisfying in there, to have these words come. Oceans of Benevolence. Reception.