It’s been a few days since I wrote The Ambient Grief of the Moment. I’ve been able to make some progress in finding ways to be with the energy of this ambient grief.
Ambient energies are more likely to impact us if we have body memories of those energies. My own experience with unexpressed childhood grief opens me up to sensing the suffering around me. WBF helps me know what to do about it.
New Growth
After connecting to this grief, the I first time I noticed that I struggled to understand or explain something, I recognized that grief was present. I took a few breaths and chanted a Buddhist prayer to connect me to a power outside of myself and then took a few more breaths. I also held space for “this is grief, my own, or what is floating around in the world. What I did not do, however, is even more critical.
Whenever, confusion arose, I had been getting anxious about my health and creating catastrophe scenarios about what is wrong with me. Now that I am aware that grief is engaged here, I can let go of the need to determine what is causing these problems and what I have to do. That is the game-changer. There is no longer a need to see these symptoms as a health problem and go into overdrive to solve them.
I know this is the correct path because the symptoms have lessened since I began holding space in this way for confusion or the inability to function.
I also connected to a flower essence remedy called Grief Relief, made by the Flower Essence Society. There are three ways to administer this remedy. One can spray the mixture into the mouth (has alcohol), on to your skin, or into the aura. This treatment also helps with the intensity of the sense of grief. It gave me hope that progress was happening in how my body is adjusting to the moment. If you use a flower remedy, I recommend that, whether you take this remedy by mouth or on your skin, include the area around your body for the grief that is not yours.
The Momentum
I hope that others find new ways to be with these energies that are part of our existence at this moment and may get stronger as we move forward in the next few months. Please share what you find with the Wholebody Focusing Community. Sharing may increase the possibility of advancing the processing of grief by helping others through this difficult time.
Drawing by Diana Scalera
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Thank you Diana!
I really agree with you that you need energy from without you to dicern yourself from a mood in the field around you too. I have experience a backgroundfeeling of sorrow/heavyness and understood that is was not me, but “the water i swim in”. Once I have experienced it it is easier to discern it and be with the feeling, but I still needs energy from outside. I get help from remind me of and reading my journal of spiritual experiences I have had earlier and from beauty, spiritual readings, songs and prayar.
Thank you Ulla-Stina. It is having an outside source (a prayer, a ritual, an awareness) that can be an important resource to support us with the “water we swim in.” We are in unprecedented times. There is the presence of COVID-19, and in many countries, a deep unrest and disappointment in our governments. This makes for very deep water for some of us to swim in. We can help each other by sharing what supports us in this important moment.
Thanks for your comment.
Diana
For me the background sense of grief lessens its impact with movement more easily in response to music. It is as if I can ride the waves of sound out beyond the reach of the grip of the grief.
Yes. Sound makes a big difference. I like to listen to Solfeggio frequencies like the Gregorian chants. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eb_J46Eprqo.