Photo Credit: Carmen Scalera
For me, music is a way in, a way to be with parts of myself that are sometimes unknown or in the background. I’ll hear a song and locate that feeling again.
A Musical Felt Sense
I found this video, Peace Will Come sung by Miley Cyrus and Melanie Safka, during a conversation with my husband about music that influenced him as a boy. We listened to a song by Dion and the Belmonts called The Wanderer. There was a video of Dion singing this song to an audience of elegantly- dressed couples in a nightclub. While my husband was walking down memory lane, I noticed that the men in the audience had big smiles on their faces and the women were looking aghast. I pointed this out to my husband, and we discussed how this song represented an ideal for men of the ’50s and early ’60s that reduced women to objects.
At the same time, my husband was able to identify the body sense of the song for him as a teenager. He said it opened new possibilities of traveling around the world and adventure. He ended up visiting many parts of the world. He didn’t notice how women were treated because it was not any different from what he had been learning about women from the culture of that time.
Who are the Artists?
I had a felt sense that a counterpoint was needed. I wanted a voice that represented a woman’s point of view, and Melanie came to mind. We went to her web site (www.melaniesafka.com) and found the video below and other material that reminded me how, during the ’60s and ’70s, her songs influenced me along with other girls and women by exemplifying independence and candor about the experience of femaleness. There is evidence in some of the video record that she shares, that she also helped men see women more fully as human beings. She was also a strong supporter of ending the war in Vietnam, and that may have been the reason she wrote Peace Will Come.
Miley Cyrus was a Disney star in the 2000s who was the target of slut-shaming in the USA when she hit her late teens for having grown into a sexy beautiful young woman. She now has a successful career as an actor/singer/songwriter who continues to surprise and challenge her audience. She created the Happy Hippie Foundation that sponsors programs that focus on youth homelessness, the LGBTQ community, and other vulnerable populations.
My Felt Sense of the Duet
This duet between Melanie Safka and Miley Cyrus is a Heartfelt Conversation between artists. The beauty of the setting, the support of the musicians who may not have known what would happen next, the interaction between the singers, and the beauty of the song itself and its social context in the ’70s and today all moved me. A sense of well-being and hope emerged in me.
The multi-generational aspect of this performance also touched me. One commenter called it a “multi-generational eargasm.” Miley’s way of being with Melanie helped me remember how important Melanie’s music was to me as a teenager. Moreover, I became aware of how ageism, especially against women, make this kind of Heartfelt Connection very rare. I found the longing in me for the ability to be a part of a community that holds, with equal regard, the contributions of people of all ages.
Please enjoy the loveliness of this moment shared.
beautiful💛
I love this Diana, your heartfelt conversation with your husband, your photo of you, your sharing of music and an artist I had listened to as well when I was younger was very warming to my heart.
What comes for me as well is the reminder to slow down and listen and observe, to pause and really check what I am taking in. I had never ever really listened to the words of the wanderer I couldn’t believe how bad they were and I had happily danced away oblivious to them.
I love your sharing of Miley and Melanie and how you give me an awareness of ageism and a different way of seeing this clip.
To be part of a tribe/sanga/group of people of all ages who respect each other no matter our age or experience and have permission to, are even encouraged to share what comes from our own being feels special to me.
Thank you
Gabe
Beautiful – the video gave me goosebumps!! I loved watching the two women relating in such a heartfelt way. And I so appreciated Diana how you arrived at this blog. We all need to look at the messages we received growing up – and especially in the music which we didn’t question at the time. I didn’t know Melanie or her music so I have just looked up the words… struck by the force behind the words “I cry out to keep me just the way I am”/